How did I get here?

I decided to start a blog because I actually found wife of a md phd student's blog to be quite an inspiring concept for connecting and releasing cathartic energy surrounding the surrounding support of committing to a MD/PhD student. On top of it all, we have been living 450 miles apart for the last three years. For professional reasons, we decided this was the best option at the time. He was only suppose to be in a two year Master's program that evolved into a four year PhD and then a sweetened offer for a free dual program...to say the least, I am ready for us to live in the same county, city and home. 


He has passed his comprehensive exams, received his white coat, and has eleven published pubs. I am so proud yet I am sad to see him be consumed by the beast of scientific research. It is so frustrating to hear the sabotage and injustice involved in research - so self serving for a public service industry. S tells me he feels like he has been sent to four years hard labor. It is terrible to hear your loved one feel that way about their work. We have lost count of how many all nighters there have been. His PI just verbally abuses everyone in the lab. But there is a light down the tunnel. Almost over.


We hold onto the future, which gets us through the daily grind. I am trying to find another job that is closer, but my own industry is in a state of chaos - hiring freezes, budget cuts, politics...whatever happens, we will be married in the fall of next year and I am moving in. :)


Though it sounds like a lot of complaining, I have really learned that nothing worth having rarely comes easy.