Thursday, July 19, 2012
Forgot to Mention
So I read what I had previously posted regarding job prospects. So they didn't work out as hoped; however, it is a blessing that I did not get hired. Without details, turns out the environment would have been a bit less organized than I would like, so moving on! :)
Wedding Bells and Med School Apps
Seventy-nine days and counting for wedding day...
I am feeling like a boss right now and kicking this wedding planning in the face. Everything and everyone is coming together. Before I definitely felt like I was alone in this and now everyone is stepping up, lending their support and now is asking if they can do anything (go figure, right?).
FDR is deep in medical school applications and MCAT studying. Every phone call sounds like I am talking to a zombie. At some points during this process I have been really scared because essentially my future is in his hands, but I had to acknowledge that if we are partners in life, I need to trust him. People who know me understand what a task that is for me. I am a worrier and a planner, but only FDR can do this. Next Thursday he should be all done with everything, just in time for me to visit. :) We had previously discussed what schools he should apply to and we narrowed it down to 10. It really came down to where would we like to live as well as the quality of the school, of course. I have a "feeling" that we are going to stay in California. I am hoping for an adventure somewhere else, but the possibility of staying close to our family and friends isn't such a bad thing either. Regardless, this will be a new chapter where we will live together as man and wife.
Yesterday was our five year anniversary. Both of us forgot and we had a good laugh about it.
Feeling positive for the future.
I am feeling like a boss right now and kicking this wedding planning in the face. Everything and everyone is coming together. Before I definitely felt like I was alone in this and now everyone is stepping up, lending their support and now is asking if they can do anything (go figure, right?).
FDR is deep in medical school applications and MCAT studying. Every phone call sounds like I am talking to a zombie. At some points during this process I have been really scared because essentially my future is in his hands, but I had to acknowledge that if we are partners in life, I need to trust him. People who know me understand what a task that is for me. I am a worrier and a planner, but only FDR can do this. Next Thursday he should be all done with everything, just in time for me to visit. :) We had previously discussed what schools he should apply to and we narrowed it down to 10. It really came down to where would we like to live as well as the quality of the school, of course. I have a "feeling" that we are going to stay in California. I am hoping for an adventure somewhere else, but the possibility of staying close to our family and friends isn't such a bad thing either. Regardless, this will be a new chapter where we will live together as man and wife.
Yesterday was our five year anniversary. Both of us forgot and we had a good laugh about it.
Feeling positive for the future.
Friday, April 6, 2012
Dreaming Forward
After two interviews, I am hopeful that this may be the job that lands me in the same city as FDR. I am cautiously optimistic, but secretly getting my hopes up.
While on my visit, we drove around town looking for neighborhoods we may consider if I do get the position. His lease is up in November, which is right after our wedding-honeymoon adventure. So I plan to move the rest of my belongings during that time as well.
It's been the norm just talking about the future, but I didn't realize it had transformed into almost the present.
So scary and excited!
While on my visit, we drove around town looking for neighborhoods we may consider if I do get the position. His lease is up in November, which is right after our wedding-honeymoon adventure. So I plan to move the rest of my belongings during that time as well.
It's been the norm just talking about the future, but I didn't realize it had transformed into almost the present.
So scary and excited!
Friday, March 16, 2012
Opportunity is Knocking at My Door
Wow, it has been a good long while since I have posted anything! So what has been going on? I have been doing various wedding planning related activities, which is pretty much done.
The big news today is that I have an interview in the same city as FDR! Totally wasn't looking for it, it just landed in my lap. Don't you hate/love when that happens? I wasn't planning on moving until February 2013, but I guess the timeline just moved up a whole lot.
What a mixture of emotions. I am excited, nervous, sad, but mostly all of those emotions are bottled up in case things don't work up. I can meltdown later.
Wish me luck...
Game face, game time.
The big news today is that I have an interview in the same city as FDR! Totally wasn't looking for it, it just landed in my lap. Don't you hate/love when that happens? I wasn't planning on moving until February 2013, but I guess the timeline just moved up a whole lot.
What a mixture of emotions. I am excited, nervous, sad, but mostly all of those emotions are bottled up in case things don't work up. I can meltdown later.
Wish me luck...
Game face, game time.
Thursday, October 6, 2011
Friday, September 23, 2011
Levels of Complication
Level One: FDR and I are separated by 450 miles of distance.
We have learned over the last three years to finds ways to see each other regularly and have the technology to talk all the time. It is still difficult, but only one more year left.
Level Two: FDR is in a MD/PhD program.
His time is precious. My time with him is precious. It has taken time, but I truly have adjusted and respect that I am #2 priority because the demand for attention and commitment is so severe.
Level Three: Our wedding is next year.
Planning a wedding is stressful and all other complications or issues are magnified because everyone is getting involved with their opinions and advice. This also means that if FDR disagree, somehow the issues of disagreement are somehow never going to be resolved for the rest of our lives (as people so abrasively advised me).
Level Four: Families be advised to butt out.
The future inlaws expressed their hurt when FDR comes to visit that they are not included to spend time. I am sure it is hard to understand and respect that they are now #3. They have been bumped two spots. However, they also need to understand that being a part of a family does not necessarily mean that constant contact and full disclosure of relationships are assumed. I was raised as a lone wolf (I speak to my grandfather and half sisters here and there when I can) and esstentially on my own. When things come up our family is there with no questions asked. FDR's seems to be the former...It may not be to others, but it is really for foreign to me, so when I hear it I am extra sensitive and protective of my life and they way I live it. The rejection of that involvement does not mean a rejection of the family. Comprendo?
Level Five: Believers vs. Nonbelievers?
Now here comes the reason for this post. My future mother-in-law express that FDR's father and her are worried that he is a "believer" and I am a "nonbeliever." It confused me for a second because I thought she was talking about him being a dreamer or an idealist...hahaha I am so naive. No, she meant because I am an atheist. Oh boy, well I wasn't about to set her straight with what his beliefs are because it could potentially be devestating for them (FDR's dad is a pastor). I have tried to be respectful, but somehow they think that he doesn't attend church because I want him to stay home with me. Hmmm...what? Makes no sense. If you are a religious person and were devoted to church, I don't think I would anyone keeping me from going. Just because I reject theism, does not mean I am not any less spiritual or have morality.
Level Six: WTF will it end?
So how are these levels resolved? By when? And by who? Feeling kinda lost right now, but I figure over time I will find the right balance of senstivity and thick skin. I am who I am. Regardless of any bs I have just listed, FDR and I are on the same page. That is what takes priority.
We have learned over the last three years to finds ways to see each other regularly and have the technology to talk all the time. It is still difficult, but only one more year left.
Level Two: FDR is in a MD/PhD program.
His time is precious. My time with him is precious. It has taken time, but I truly have adjusted and respect that I am #2 priority because the demand for attention and commitment is so severe.
Level Three: Our wedding is next year.
Planning a wedding is stressful and all other complications or issues are magnified because everyone is getting involved with their opinions and advice. This also means that if FDR disagree, somehow the issues of disagreement are somehow never going to be resolved for the rest of our lives (as people so abrasively advised me).
Level Four: Families be advised to butt out.
The future inlaws expressed their hurt when FDR comes to visit that they are not included to spend time. I am sure it is hard to understand and respect that they are now #3. They have been bumped two spots. However, they also need to understand that being a part of a family does not necessarily mean that constant contact and full disclosure of relationships are assumed. I was raised as a lone wolf (I speak to my grandfather and half sisters here and there when I can) and esstentially on my own. When things come up our family is there with no questions asked. FDR's seems to be the former...It may not be to others, but it is really for foreign to me, so when I hear it I am extra sensitive and protective of my life and they way I live it. The rejection of that involvement does not mean a rejection of the family. Comprendo?
Level Five: Believers vs. Nonbelievers?
Now here comes the reason for this post. My future mother-in-law express that FDR's father and her are worried that he is a "believer" and I am a "nonbeliever." It confused me for a second because I thought she was talking about him being a dreamer or an idealist...hahaha I am so naive. No, she meant because I am an atheist. Oh boy, well I wasn't about to set her straight with what his beliefs are because it could potentially be devestating for them (FDR's dad is a pastor). I have tried to be respectful, but somehow they think that he doesn't attend church because I want him to stay home with me. Hmmm...what? Makes no sense. If you are a religious person and were devoted to church, I don't think I would anyone keeping me from going. Just because I reject theism, does not mean I am not any less spiritual or have morality.
Level Six: WTF will it end?
So how are these levels resolved? By when? And by who? Feeling kinda lost right now, but I figure over time I will find the right balance of senstivity and thick skin. I am who I am. Regardless of any bs I have just listed, FDR and I are on the same page. That is what takes priority.
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